The Bill Burr edition
A couple of weeks ago, Bill Burrās conversation with Neal Brennan popped up on my podcast feed. Bill is a goddamn genius and one of my favorite comedians ever. I hadnāt watched his comedy or heard his podcasts in a while, so Iāve been bingeing on his podcast episodes and videos ever since.
He has this beautiful ability to dance around touchy topics, poke fun at peopleās absurd beliefs, and make them mad, but not enough to stop listening to him. Itās a joy to watch him make people squirm as they laugh nervously and make faces like theyāve had a bad Botox job.
Iām a comedy geek. Itās weird, but IāveĀ _heardĀ _more stand-up specials thanĀ _watchedĀ _them. It used to take me about an hour to drive to work, so I used to listen to comedy specialsāyeah, Iām a weirdo! Iāve lost track of the number of times Iāve laughed out loud like an idiot at traffic signals, much to the concern of commuters around me.
I like Bill because heās the classic Everyman. He worked his way up from nothing and toiled for decades before becoming famous. Heās the opposite of an overnight success. As a middle-class Indian, thatās a story I can identify with because thatās the story of most people in India, including my peoples.
For me, what makes comedians special is that they are the sharpest observers of the human condition. They can cut through the eighty layers of bullshit and see all the absurdity, filth, grime, and nobility of humanity in full HD.
This is why I think comedians are modern-day philosophers, even though they hate that description. I had written about this in aĀ previous post.
Whenever you listen to Bill, itās guaranteed that a few things will be etched on your brain forever. Itās not all shits and giggles, though. Bill is great at giving practical advice and answers. Heās beenĀ answeringĀ ridiculous and downright whacky questions on hisĀ Monday Morning PodcastĀ that heās been doing since 2007.
Whenever you listen to Bill, itās guaranteed that a few things will be etched on your brain forever. Itās not all shits and giggles, though. Bill is great at giving practical advice and answers. Heās beenĀ answeringĀ ridiculous and downright whacky questions on hisĀ Monday Morning Podcast,Ā that heās been doing since 2007.
Own your shit
Artists and creators almost always get taken for a ride because of their naivete. Iāve heard Bill speak out against the mistreatment of artists numerous times butĀ this conversationĀ with Joe Rogan stood out in my head.
Bill Burr:Ā Every every time you get in business with, like corporate guys, this is how it works. Itās like the check, OK, weāre in business to make money from them and then you get in business with them and the check goes to the corporate guy and then you get your cut off of his checkbook. So right there I am immediately in a situation where thereās no way I can steal from him, but he can rob me fucking blind. Joe Rogan:Ā Right. And you can add a bunch of expenses on the things Bill Burr:Ā That front end load expenses to make it look like theyāre losing money and. Joe Rogan:Ā Yeah. Itās Hollywood accounting. Bill Burr:Ā Yeah. No, itās stealing. Itās stealing is what it is. They just call it Hollywood accounting, but itās not Hollywood accounting. Itās, itās corporate accounting. Itās scumbag accounting. Thatās just and itās how they do it. Bill Burr:Ā And I just I just love telling these fucking stories because these are the things that you like. Whatās great about podcasting is you can say this. This is for every person out there as a fucking business. And, you know, thereās that thing where you want to take it to the next level. And then these these guys come in and then theyāre all just like, yeah, well, hey, weāre going to take a piece of it. And they take a big fuckin chunk out of it. And what they do is their risk is all the way down here. Yours is up here. And then somehow they just Iām telling you, like you better you better to sell twenty thousand copies on it. A hundred percent then twenty million and not own any of it. Youāre going to make more money. Thatās just how the game is played. And those fucking guys who steal from people, they they sleep very comfortably.
Even though Bill is talking about this in the context of entertainment, it applies to all anybody who posts anything on the internet. It doesnāt matter if you are writing a blog, starting a podcast, or sharing images: own your shit. Relying on platforms rarely ends well.
Iāve been following media and platforms for over a decade now, and Iāve seen the same story play out over and over again. Creators jump on the shiny platform of the moment and put in an effort to create stuff for the platform, but the platform changes its terms or dies, and creators are screwed.
This debate is playing out right now over Substackās newĀ follow feature. Substack introduced a feature that allows readers to follow writers without having to subscribe to their newsletters. Writers have been complaining that even though theyāve been gaining followers, itās not translating to more email subscriptions. The whole pitch of Substack from the start was that āyou own your followers,ā and thatās changing. ItĀ feelsĀ like Substack wants to be more of a social network than an email newsletter platform.
Before this, there was Twitter. People spent countless hoursĀ _buildingĀ _their following and are now at the mercy of a lunatic. There areĀ countless examplesĀ of platform horror stories from Vine, Medium, Facebook, Facebook Bulletin, and YouTube.
Today, thanks to tools like WordPress, Simplecast, and Ghost, owning your creative output has never been easier. The Free and Open Source Software (FOSS) guys had figured this shit out decades ago.
Donāt allow yourself to be a hostage to the whims of platforms. Their incentives will never be the same as yours. Be smart and leverage them, but donāt let yourself get locked in. Take this blog, for example. It is published on Substack and my ownĀ WordPress blog. Even if Substack dies tomorrow, all of my work stays on that site.
The same logic applies when youāre working with other people as well. Whenever you start something, donāt say yes to ridiculous terms and let other people own your hard work.
Know what you suck at
Bill was onĀ Howie Mandelās podcast,Ā and it was brilliant. I wanna share two amazing things that Bill said. The first was about knowing what youāre good at and not wasting time on something you suck at.
Howie Mandel:Ā My philosophy, I think the smartest people in the room are the people who know what they donāt know, you know, and people who know what they who think they know. Bill Burr:Ā Thatās how I got to a lot of things that I got, was I always knew what I sucked at. So I didnāt have to waste time like when I played drums. As much as I love playing drums, when I would go to a music store, I always tell this story, I would go in and I would see some kid half my age sit down at the drums and pick up a guitar. And you could see he, he was expressing himself already. He had it. And I was like, I was trying to figure out what he was doing. I just knew I was just like, āYou, you enjoy drums. Youāre a fan of music, but you are not a musician. This is not your calling.ā So I just kept moving around. Iām like, āAlright, suck at that, fuck that.ā
Whenever we are investing in companies, my boss, who used to trade for a living, always asks the founders, āWhatās the stop-loss?.ā In trading, a stop-loss is a specific price at which you cut your losses and get out of the trade. When he asks that question, heās asking, How do you know if what you are doing isnāt working, and whatās plan B? That always stuck with me because itās such great advice.
Not everything you do in life works, and thatās ok. But what matters is trying new things and moving on when you donāt enjoy something or if you arenāt good at it. Life is long, and thereās always something youāre good at. You will only find it if you fuck around and find out.
Sticking with something you suck at and donāt enjoy is a guaranteed way to be miserable and full of regrets. Itās risky, but thatās life, bro. If I think about my own career, Iāve distributed flyers on the streets, sold electronic goods and water bottles door to door, and done tons of other random things before finding something I enjoyed doing.
Getting knocked up
āWhat doesnāt kill you makes you stronger.ā This is a common platitude people throw at you if youāre going through tough times. Iām not past it either. I use the line whenever people talk to me about going through bad times, but I donāt know if it helps. Bill had aĀ brilliant wayĀ of talking about the two sides taking knocks: they make you stronger but leave marks.
Bill Burr:Ā Everything in life, all the pain that you have in life, it just makes you, if you survive it, it makes you tougher. If you donāt give into it, you know, thatās the thing that you learn on the way, is like you can make the choice. You never run, people, you know often say āeverythingās going great, then this happened.ā Itās just like, well, that happens to everybody. Yeah. You should just, you got to use that as a, as part of your story to get in there. But if you make, you, you have the power to be, to let that thing take you out. Neal Brennan:Ā Thereās a thing that post-traumatic stress, and thereās also a thing that no one ever talks about, which is post-traumatic growth, which is like, yeah, you can grow from this shit. Bill Burr:Ā Youād rather not. Neal Brennan:Ā Youād rather feel bad for yourself. Bill Burr:Ā No, youād rather have not have that shit happen. Neal Brennan:Ā Of course. But Iām saying is, itās going to happen. And the thing that I feel like you maybe didnāt have the right balance of was like, how much of this shit is just making me tougher? And how much of this is making me tougher in a way thatās not helpful? Bill Burr:Ā I mean, I would say like 85% of it was not helpful. It wasnāt. I mean, to this day, my, my energy sucks. Like when I go to a party, like, I am that fucking traumatized person that is feels comfortable being over in the corner and like not talking to anyone.
Having said that, if your friends tell you theyāre going through some bad times and ask for advice, I donāt know what else you can say.
Or I donāt know.
Maybe it all comes down to how you deal with bad shit. Iāve always been terrible at it because I repress everything. One of these days, I will explode, and some shrink in Bangalore will get rich from just treating me.
Hobbies
HavingĀ hobbiesĀ does wonders for you. You learn new things, you meet new people, your thinking becomes nuanced, and you feel a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment. Thereās also the added bonus that your next career might start as a hobby.
I watch a lot of, uh, old shit. And then I watch, um, I watch a lot of sports, I think. But and then Iām totally into like music and shit like that, and fucking aviation, and baking. Like, like zillion, fuck itās like my ADHD, I just fucking, I gotta be doing something and learning something. But comedy is the only thing I ever really stuck with. So was the only thing I ever really kind of got good at. Everything else, I kind of, you know, jack of all trades.
Perhaps the most important thing about hobbies is that they stop you from letting work define your identity. This is a tragedy that afflicts people today and itās sad.
Money
I accidentally came acrossĀ this video clipĀ in which Bill explains his money philosophy, and itās brilliant. My own money philosophy is similar. Iāve quoted a lengthy excerpt, and I hope I donāt get sued. I just realized doing something that would get me sued for copyright is a terrible thing to do financially, but imma risk it because this piece of advice is so good.
I work for Indiaās largest broking company, and itās like having a front-row seat to how India saves and invests. I get to see how different types of people handle their money. What always blows my mind is that, often, the smartest people do the dumbest things with their money. Thereās zero correlation between IQ and how good people are with their money.
Bill Burr:Ā Howās your relationship to money changed since youāre now making money? Um, I try to, try to remain debt free. So, um, thereās no 401k for a comedian. So I try and, Iām not into the stock market, Iām not into banks. I mean, I play the game, sort of required to put a certain amount into the 401k and then I just put it on the crap table, right? Um, but my philosophies when I was investing was like, alright, I want to invest in companies that are getting tangible stuff. Like that whole pets.com crap, like I never bought into that. But if like, you were like, youāve had a gold mine and you were digging for gold or you, you know, you, you some sort of agriculture, it just seemed like it was a, you could, you know, whatever, it was something real. It wasnāt in the air or a philosophy. But then after a while, I just was kind of going, āAlright, so Iām investing in this, weāll just say the gold, you know, uh, the minor thing, right, company.ā Iām like, āAt the end of it, I donāt get any gold. So this is stupid.ā So then I was wanted to have something tangible. So like, to me, it was obvious, itās like, buy a house. So I bought a house and then Iām just, Iāve just paid it down like an absolute madman. And, um, you know, itās very sparsely furnished. Um, and, but like, the freedom I have of, you know, not having credit card debt because Iāve lived like that and had it hanging over my head and it used to wake me up at night and it was awful. And people would call and, āWhereās our money?ā and all that. And I, I hated it. And something my brother told me a long time ago, he goes, you know what, we were working at the same place and looking out over this sea of cubicles. And he was just breaking it down like, all these guys like wood working in the warehouse and then they would get a position, āI want a position.ā And then they would move out to the carpeted cubicle area and they buy their little, you know, shirt and tie. And my brother be like, āWhatās the first thing that they do?ā And I was like, āYou know what?ā He goes, āThey go out and they buy a new car and itās like, now you just chained yourself to your desk. You canāt, you canāt leave.ā And then he goes, āAnd then also the average shithead gets a dollar an hour raise and they immediately start spending two dollars more an hour. So theyāre just constantly chasing it and youāre just behind the eight ball. I mean, youāre just completely fucked.ā You know, if nobody teaches you those things or tells you those things, itās like, through student loans and a couple of credit cards and getting yourself some transportation, these kids today are so far behind the eight ball. Like, like the amount of money that they, they charge for college to go into this job market with no guarantee of any sort of a job, itās a fucking ripoff. My brother also told me a great thing because heās always been great with money and he said, āYou know what true wealth is?ā It says, āGoing into a mall, being able to buy anything and then you donāt. And you just walk out.ā And like, those are the like, the lessons that, you know, stuck with me. Itās why I drive a Prius. I mean, part of it, the reason why I did the Prius is because I fly every other weekend. Iāve literally put my own hole in the ozone layer. So I had to do something. And I saw enough people in these flashy cars, you know, you got a car that can go 180 miles an hour and youāre in bumper to bumper traffic with me. So, um, I would rather, you know, I have one TV. People always give me shit, itās not big enough for my living room because itās the one that I had when I had a one bedroom apartment. But itās paid for and it fucking works. What am I supposed to do? Throw it out? So like, those are those are the things like, you know, but because Iāve done that, like today, I donāt have to work. I can go play drums and go see a movie. Yeah. And if youāre, if youāre young and youāre listening to this, I implore you to go down that road because if you could tell from the last hour, I am not the brightest guy. I am not a well-read guy. I went after a passion, but you, you can have that life.Ā Like, dude, having a life like, living as debt-free as you can, being able to go to the movies whenever you want to is about as free as it gets.
Iāve also been writing about how people canĀ avoid being poorĀ for a while now. Iāve realized that learning how to manage your money is not rocket science. Yes, it takes some effort, but thatās the same with everything in life, including farting. Sometimes, the farts come out on their own, but other times, you have to squeeze them out.
I come from a typical middle class Indian family. For most of my life, my family has lived between two extremes: the grotesque luxury of a lower middle-class lifestyle and abject poverty. Those experiences have profoundly shaped my understanding of money.
The most important money lesson Iāve learned from personal experiences and also fucking up is to avoid the risk of ruin at all costs. You can only make money if you donāt lose money. By that, I donāt mean being conservative. No. It means avoiding theĀ obvious mistakesĀ that guarantee ruin.
As dumb and obvious as it might sound, 80% of people donāt get it. Look at any statistic about how many people make money in the stock market, and youāll see that 80ā90% of people lose money. Forget traders. Itās the same with people who invest tooāvery few people have good outcomes.
Whatās surprising is that thereās no grand secret to building wealth slowly. Itās bloody obvious, but itās like reading how to ride a bike and actually riding one. Money is like cocaine for our emotions. It ups the intensity of all the dumb things we can do. As soon as we have some money in the bank, we go from being the smartest creatures in the known universe to absolute morons.
Also, watch these two clips on the topic of money:
On Howie Mandelās podcast, Bill gets into aĀ discussion about God,Ā and itās epic, and I died laughing. Itās laced with profanity, so if youāre reading this and are religious, I recommend skipping this section. Donāt read it, and then come yell at me because you chose to ignore my warning. Also, donāt try to get fucking offended on behalf of all the religious people. Donāt be that guy. But if youāve got a sense of humor, youāll love this bit.
Bill Burr:Ā Itās designed to fail. Howie Mandel:Ā Our world? Bill Burr:Ā Yes. Howie Mandel:Ā Wow, that turned dark. Weāre designed to fail? Bill Burr:Ā Yes, and I blame God. Not a lot of people do. Howie Mandel:Ā Do you believe in God? Are you religious? Bill Burr:Ā Uh, I was, and then I wasnāt, and now I am again. Howie Mandel:Ā What happened? Bill Burr:Ā Uh, I got past organized religion and I was like, āThis was, this is always them trying to explain what they didnāt understand.ā So they donāt understand it. Just because they donāt understand it and they use it in the wrong way, it doesnāt mean that itās not there. So Iām trying to have my own likeā¦ Howie Mandel:Ā Cult? Is that really a scratch on your forehead from a child or is that a mark? Bill Burr:Ā That was a, yeah, it was a ritual. Um, no, Iām just, Iām kind of just having my own, Iām just kind of having my own thing. All right, you know, I like, whatever my idea of it isnāt any, any better than your idea. It isnāt any more right or wrong. Howie Mandel:Ā Um, whatās your idea? I want to hear your idea. Bill Burr:Ā My idea, I just think that itās, itās like, uh, the Earth is more like his like, just like sort of an artist, right? And then he just designed these things to fuck with each other for like his own entertainment. I donāt think, I donāt think he cares. Thatās my thing. I donāt think that he cares what happens to, if he cares, he wouldnāt make serial killers, which he does. He does make serial killers and Iām sick of him pawning that off on the devil because he also created the devil. That is also his creation. So shouldnāt he just handle that? Like, why doesnāt he just handle that shit? Why do we have to deal with it? Why is there this big fucking test? Well, it doesnāt make any fucking sense. The whole thing is fucking stupid. The whole thing is fucking, if you just look at animals, what do animals do? Nothing. And then you look how some are just out there with teeth like mine, running next to these monsters, and they get ripped apart and eaten alive. And he made that too. So like, heās, heās not, you know, I donāt think heās like the most, you know, chill dude. I donāt understand why he drops you in this cesspool and then shit happens to you. And then at the end of your life, heās yelling at you like, āWhat the fuck was that?ā What do you mean, āWhat the fuck was that?ā It was what you made. It was what the fuck you made and I ran into all those fucking assholes. I donāt want to be like this. You think I want to be a fucking angry lunatic? Maybe if you tried a little harder with some of the people in my life when you made them, you lazy cunt. No, instead of fucking working six days and putting your feet up, and thatās it, let the thing just go where itās gonna go. And then itās my responsibility, this little fucking speck on this fucking planet. Oh, fuck yourself. Iām not really saying it to him. Iām saying it to like all organized religions. Howie Mandel:Ā So you believe in a fucking cunt? Bill Burr:Ā I believe that God is everything. I believe Iām with you and heās also a cunt. But I definitely, I do believe that the only power that you do have is to try to be nice to people. Thatās really at the end of it. Thatās all you have. Even thoughā¦ Howie Mandel:Ā That is a great ending to that rant. Godās a cunt, yeah, so be nice. Bill Burr:Ā I donāt have to go down to his level.
This reminds me of the legendary George CarlināsĀ bit on religion:
Neal BrennanĀ asks Bill, how heād fix the world and his answer is hilarious and kinda profound:
Bill Burr:Ā I donāt know, but as far as like how to, how to fix it, thereās thereās no way to fix it. Human beings are inherently flawed, right? That thereās no like, uh, like the actually truly good, empathetic people donāt really want to govern people and tell them what to do. They kind of want to be left alone. But like psychos, um, who arenāt that smart, theyāre just, I think a really ignorant thought would be for me to sit here going like, āYou know what, I know how to blah, blah, blah, how to do that.ā Thatās what dumb people think. And they goā¦ Neal Brennan:Ā Iām not talking about like you should do it or run for, Iām just saying like, what would you do? āCause dealing with people, I even, if itās like, I, I have severe problems with most things, but Iām like, I donāt know what the solution would be. Bill Burr:Ā My first thought, um, you got to go Hitler, but with the right things. You got to have the Final Solution for Neal Brennan:Ā Positive.Hitler positive. Bill Burr:Ā Positive Hitler.You got to shave off the mustache. Yep. Itās like when Spider-Man wears the red suit instead of the black suit. The sociopaths, narcissists, you, youād have to totally change the history that all kind of look and view like thatās what happened. Youād have to change a bunch of that. And I donāt know how you would do it. Thereās no way to fix it. There is no way to fix it because the, all of that, thereās a, thereās a fly in the ointment of everything. I think the reality is, is what weāre doing is the best we got. This is the best we can do.
A few recommendations
An old post I had written about Bill Burr
Search for āBill Burrā on Netflix this weekend and laugh a little with your friends and family. Life is shit, and itās infinitely shittier without laughs.
Love a little, and laugh a little.
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